Last year my life went on a surreal journey for 10 weeks. Greg, an old friend I’d done a poor job of keeping in touch with, had emailed me a link to a website saying “not sure if you’re interested.” Curious and a bit concerned, I clicked the link. It brought me to a page with a picture of him, his wife and children. Underneath that was a story explaining that he had just been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer.
My initial response was guilt that I’d not kept in touch. Then it was disbelief: “That can’t be possible. He’s the same age as me. He’s got two small children.” I reached out. He wanted as much support as possible from as many people as possible.
Over the next few weeks, I would ask myself every day: what’s something funny I could text Greg about to cheer him up? What’s actually whacky or daft about the life I’m living or things I’m doing and seeing – especially from the perspective of someone who is fighting for his life?
I found it quite easy when I looked. For example, rather than make him dwell on the fact he probably would not fly overseas again, I told him about the less glamorous side to travel. I shared how my remedy for constipation on a trip to Ireland a couple of weeks prior had backfired horribly because I’d become impatient. You know, I am that ‘high achiever’ type and its slow results were not acceptable! Continue reading “Greg’s Waving at You” »