Two Reasons Why We Set Goals and So Rarely Reach Them

Why do we set goals and so rarely reach them? Why are New Years Resolutions about as effective as spitting into a strong wind?

Matt on a camel in the United Arab Emirates during the month of April 2014.

Let’s be honest: there are many reasons why. One of the key ones for me personally is I need to be in an environment that pushes me every week to get out of my comfort zone and live up to my potential. That’s why I created Goals Gym.

In this article, I want to focus on two mental areas. It’s relatively easy to find information on what to DO to succeed, but not much attention is given to the mental shifts we need to make – especially on HOW to change our thinking.

Your genetics and the environment in which you were raised have hardwired much of your thinking and how you handle many life situations. If you’re not where you want to be in life, it’s because of hardwired beliefs and your hardwired behavioural habits.

1.  You must have high Positive Intelligence to reach most of your goals. Continue Reading…

Specific Ideas to Increase Your Positive Intelligence

Recently I wrote about the best book I’ve read this year, Shirzad Chamine’s Positive Intelligence. MetLife also 2014The author argues that only 20% of people reach their potential because everyone else has low PQ (positive intelligence). He defines this as less than 75/100 on the premise that you need three of every four of your thoughts to be positive otherwise how can expect to move forward?

There are three strategies to increase your PQ:
1. Weaken your mental Saboteurs (e.g. your inner critic)
2. Strengthen the Sage part of your brain that comes up with great ideas
3. Strengthen your PQ brain muscles

I’ve already written about 1 and 2 – ask me for my article on that or buy his book. From running my Goals Gym, I’ve found that people struggle much harder with how to build the PQ muscles.

If you don’t want to read the rest of this, but simply get a copy of the tracker I created, email me and I’ll send it to you. Continue Reading…

Greg’s Waving at You

Last year my life went on a surreal journey for 10 weeks. Greg, an old friend I’d done a poor job of keeping in touch with, had emailed me a link to a website saying “not sure if you’re interested.” Matt sampling ouzo 2014 Curious and a bit concerned, I clicked the link. It brought me to a page with a picture of him, his wife and children. Underneath that was a story explaining that he had just been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer.

My initial response was guilt that I’d not kept in touch. Then it was disbelief: “That can’t be possible. He’s the same age as me. He’s got two small children.” I reached out. He wanted as much support as possible from as many people as possible.

Over the next few weeks, I would ask myself every day: what’s something funny I could text Greg about to cheer him up? What’s actually whacky or daft about the life I’m living or things I’m doing and seeing – especially from the perspective of someone who is fighting for his life?

I found it quite easy when I looked. For example, rather than make him dwell on the fact he probably would not fly overseas again, I told him about the less glamorous side to travel. I shared how my remedy for constipation on a trip to Ireland a couple of weeks prior had backfired horribly because I’d become impatient. You know, I am that ‘high achiever’ type and its slow results were not acceptable! Continue Reading…

How to Get Your Mojo Back

I’d felt lost before when I was 18 and my first love had left me, but I still remember lying on the same bed that my dad had spent his dying months with cancer and really having no idea what could get me feeling driven again. It was 2002, I’d walked away from a career that had not been a good fit for me, I was feeling lost and, at 35, rather embarrassed about this: I didn’t seem to know what I wanted to be when I grew up.Speaking to International Life near Athens 2014

Maybe for you it’s simply feeling a bit flat. Busy, but not excited. You have goals but in reality they are the more like targets. Perhaps someone else’s targets and they don’t really get your juices flowing.

I thought it was time to look over the Self-Help section in (the UK book shop) Waterstones. That day I bought Be Your Own Life Coach by Fiona Harrold and her words and questions along with my answers and actions really did change my life. Within three weeks I moved 4000 miles from England to New Mexico and started training as a coach, which would push me to start my first business three months after that called Great Endeavours.

What got my mojo back?
First I must admit I was at a really low point and feeling pain can be a great motivator: when the student is ready, the teacher appears…
In addition, the book gave me:
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